I have learned that morepeople love to talk than listen. Between the pundits, politicians, expertsand social posters on the internet, everyone’s talking and expressing an opinion. But how many are really tuned in and listening?
These past few weeks I turned down the “noise” to address some personal matters that meant more to me than what people thought and said. I found it rather peaceful. No anxiety from the news and lesstime wasted scrolling through umpteen posts. I was able to have real conversations with people in person and by phone rather than just abrupt texts.
For years Iwas a better talker than listener. After my breast cancer diagnosis I was forced to listen to my doctors and to my own body that had been telling me for years to take it easier. I learned to ask questions and listen more intently. I also learned (slowly) to be quiet.
A skilled communicator knows how to express herself verbally and with purpose andhow tolisten with intent and sincerity. She doesn’t talk over someone or around them or hog the conversation. She knows howto punctuate a statement to get her point across and how to pause to elicitan effective response.Anyone can be a better listener. It just takes being quiet and focusing on the person in front of youor the situation around youwith thought and without distraction. Many people practice their speaking skills, but it’s just as important to practice your listening skills.
Listening is not just about what you hear around you. It’s also listening to your inner voice. And it’s “listening” to someone’s body language and how he or sheisexpressing him/herself by remaining silent. Much can be heard without anyone saying a word if you are perceptive.
Being a good speaker makes people listen to you.Being a goodlistener puts people at ease.
