Don’t Forget To Smile!

Don’t Forget To Smile!

An itchy nose and maskne rash notwithstanding, another side effect for many people wearing masks is forgetting to smile. The bottom half of your face is covered, so your eyes become the main form of expression unless you are wearing sunglasses and a hat. Then your face basically disappears. On the creative side, masks have become a new form of expression, a fashion accessory that can match your clothes and offer a message across your face. If wearing a mask is the new normal, give it your personal touch, especially this holiday season. Mask wearing has created funny and not funny outcomes: On the

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The State of Transition

The State of Transition

The challenge of “what next?’ and “where to?” presents an opportunity unlike any to reshape one’s future. To do this well, you really need to let go of anything in your past life that is holding you down. That is not an easy task, and it takes time. We have met many people living in the same state. Some are trying to figure things out; others are well on their way.

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No If or Buts. Thoughts on Grieving

No If or Buts. Thoughts on Grieving

We’re all grieving for someone or something that we lost this year  We’ll all be glad when 2020 is in the rear view mirror. In the meantime, we gave thanks for good health, recovery, friendship, photos of loved ones and happy places. Simple things.  No ifs or buts this year.

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Heads Up! Speak Out!

Heads Up! Speak Out!

“Stay quiet, listen and keep your head down. Try not to stand out.” Those were the words of advice I was given when I started out in my career. Many women have been taught to avoid controversy, to fit in and lay low. It can work to your advantage being a team player. But it does not work when you want to shape your identity and shine a light. And laying low does not help when the odds are stacked against you and bosses and colleagues are treating you unfairly. I have been following an ongoing news investigation about sexual harassment at the

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What I Did During My Pandemic Summer

What I Did During My Pandemic Summer

Remember your first day back in school in late August or early September when your teacher asked you to write an essay entitled. ‘What I did on my summer vacation?” Well, this September, with a pandemic that still continues at a scary pace, we’ll all have a story to share unlike any other. Here’s mine: How I spend my Pandemic Summer Some people shared that during this pandemic they took up a new language, started a kitchen table business, sewed masks, re-designed their websites, volunteered at the local food pantry, caught up reading books, watched old movies, learned to bake sourdough

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Tone Deaf? I’m Listening and Trying

Tone Deaf? I’m Listening and Trying

I’ve tried writing this post a half dozen times. Then something happens in the news, and everything feels inappropriate. Every time I try to write something down, I worry about sounding tone-deaf. But a wordsmith also cannot stay silent. I believe in equal rights and offering everyone a fair chance. I don’t want to see anyone mistreated and I detest racism, bigotry, religious intolerance, gender bias, ageism, sexism and any action or words that denigrate an individual, group or nationality. I haven’t marched in a protest because I am uncomfortable in large crowds and worry about getting sick. I refrain from posting many statements on

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 Zoom and Gloom- Staying Virtually Fabulous 

 Zoom and Gloom- Staying Virtually Fabulous 

Just when I thought I had mastered disconnecting to find better balance in my life, the COVID-19 pandemic turned what was right side up, upside down. Life has become a virtual reality tied to clicks, mikes and screens. Some of it is great and other times…..well, let me put it this way: Sometimes I want to scream at the screen and tell people how to conduct themselves. I’ve seen the tops of more heads over the past six weeks. And distorted faces. Zoom has been great for connecting people, but many have no idea how to use it. The first few minutes

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Pan-fried and Stir Crazy- Six Degrees of Isolation

Pan-fried and Stir Crazy- Six Degrees of Isolation

Our lives right now could be called “Six Degrees of Isolation.” They mirror Dr. Elisabeth Kübler–Ross’s five degrees of grief with a bonus: Denial: This really couldn’t be happening! Anger: I am so frustrated and angry this is happening in the world! Bargaining: I promise to wear my mask and gloves going out and will wash my hands and sanitize regularly; just please keep me healthy! Depression: I feel helpless and sad.. So many people are dying? When will this end? Will things every be back to normal? Acceptance: Well, let’s just make the most of this situation. It is

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Why Did It Take a Pandemic to Do This?

Why Did It Take a Pandemic to Do This?

As we move into another week of shelter in place (SIP) that may or may not end April 30, everyone is learning to adapt to less space and more time to fill. I’ve noticed a few interesting developments in the conversations I have with people and see online. Even though we remain in isolation, we stay connected. Here is my “Why Did it Take a Pandemic to Do This List?” 1 Get creative and crafty. People are working with their hands as a form of stress relief. Some are returning to former hobbies or testing skills to learn something new. I have

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There Is Nothing Wrong With You

There Is Nothing Wrong With You

My Dad used to say with a wink, “there is nothing like a good shtupping to make you feel better.” Well (cringe) he said many inappropriate things with his dirty sense of humor and we just rolled our eyes and groaned. But a little intimacy and pleasure seem like a much better choice than many of the self-help remedies being marketed to people these days, not to mention all the pills and supplements that promise cures and then mention- in small type- dozens of potential side effects. It all starts with the premise: Something is not right in your life.

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